Judge not


On “Rosey’s Convo” our radio talk show on Real Buzz Radio, we discussed a topic called Labelling. Within this we explored the labels we attach to others such as Police, young people, single parents, teachers etc.

We then explored the ideology and imagery that formulates within one’s mind based on our own personal perception of that label.

During our 1st Knife crime seminar held on 2nd November 2018, one of the speakers a renowned social entrepreneur called Errol Michael Henry explored how opinions are formed based on inaccuracies and lack of information.

It later got me thinking. Newspaper headlines report “A 15-year-old child knifed to death” Without reading the article, many of us will sigh in frustration and immediately begin commenting and condemning young people. In that moment every young person is generalised and bracketed as a thug, with no manners, no morals, no respect and no behavior. Next, we turn our focus on the families, paying special critique to single parent homes.

We are faced with an incident, no antecedent or reasoning is provided. Once we finish critiquing the family, we then turn to blame the victim. “Well he must have been caught up in a gang, selling drugs, or promoting that life; What was he doing out at that time anyway” and so on. Does our judgement define the victim or the perpetrator? or does our judgement simply define our own personal ignorance’s? Let us reflect.

Labels especially when negative have a way to make us feel threatened.

The brain goes into a fight, flight, or freeze mode. Self-reason at this stage, does not beckon

We cannot rationalise the behaviour, so become tight and defensive

This is a normal reaction, but I say we need to pause and not be so reactive

A wise man will be mindful, evaluating his words, seeking a positive outcome before he speaks

As reasoning and resolution from an epidemic is what we really seek

For a hasty email, or a cruel word, can actually cause more harm

As the anger and frustration in the heart, dampens the concerning charm

How easy is it to change that critical thought into a positive one?

Rather than fueling the rage at the victim or perpetrator, what can we do to comfort the dads and mums?

What can we do to understand the emotions triggering our young people’s behaviour?

What can we implement to remedy the situation to reduce the potential danger?

Whether we like it or not, everyone, even young people are struggling

In a world blinded to us as adults, burdened with a threat, underlying fear, all hidden because a brothers smiling.

We only see a young person on the road, with the presumption he is hustling.

But what do we really understand about the causes that has their blood bubbling?

How often do we look at the young person and say this child could have been me,

before I received an intervention of love, before that hope that set my potential free?

How many of us, honestly see a group of young people and immediately maintain a positive thought?

Or has the negative image of this epidemic programmed our mind in negative retort?

If a young person responds negatively, how do we educate them on how best to respond?

Do we look at our own behavior to evaluate if whether our approach or communication was wrong?

How educated are we on the young individuals hidden needs, maybe the limited communication stems from a disability?

Maybe they have never been shown how to positively interact, been educated or stretched to highest their ability.

It is not a child’s aspiration to grow into a murderer, a drug dealer or a jerk

Many want to be dancers, famous, a teacher, solicitor, their response is always to work

So where does it go wrong? what interrupts the path? what plants this unethical seed?

We all say we want solutions, but how are we building our knowledge around these young peoples need?

What will it take to understand? the media report to sell papers, boost ratings this is their way

To fully understand the antecedent to the epidemic we need to ask young people about their lives and truly listen to what they say

Hear their needs and take action, for they require us adults to save and bring the peace

After all, was it not an elder that introduced our children to the land of the deceased?


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