Sticks and Stones

Have you heard the saying sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me
Our elders often chanted this but in our own actions this seemed to be hypocrisy
For name calling causes low self-esteem, lack of confidence and can cause some to envy
Looking at what another has that makes them cool so long for this image to be
If insulted could you chant sticks and stones raise your head before composing yourself to walk away
Or would your emotional equilibrium be impacted by the negative words and insults that they say

As a child if every day you were mocked and told repeatedly that you are ugly
Called stupid, told you just get on my nerves, tackled and beaten as though you’re the ball in rugby
Ignored, violated, laughed at and mocked because you don’t fit in
How long would it take you to feel ugly, worthless, numb and unworthy within
If told you will amount to nothing, you’re my shame you’re such a disgrace
How long would it be before the smile is wiped off your face?

If words do not hurt why does being called fat cause an individual to stop eating food
Why does “shut up you fool” raise anger and instantly change a person’s mood
Why do the words of an angry parent uttered about a child down the phone to a listening friend
Embarrass and scar the child hearing causing hurt, a broken spirit, I believe words do offend
Cyber bullying uses words yet it drives some children and young people to commit suicide
Words crush the ego, cause the heart to ache, isolate and sorely bruise one’s pride

In a relationship hearing “it’s over” can throw a spanner in your wheel of dreams
“I hate you” can block your face from love as it’s disguised by the angry screams
Get out my house you make me sick, or do me a favour and die
These are sentences we say to others without physical violence these words make us cry
If we grow up hearing the words your useless, whatless, why did god curse me with you
As you grow older what spirit do you think will really shine through

As a mum I get tired and fed up, at times my words uttered to the children do not lead them to light
In anger my words hurt and embarrass them, at times I have even encouraged them to fight
I love them more than anything but my words at times do not make them feel so
For anger takes over my mouth and I lose that loving self-control
Then embarrassed I go in and utter my apology, we embrace, we cry I ask them to forgive me
But deep in my heart I wonder how deep have my words cut, now when they look in the mirror who do they see.

Words scar and the impact is invisible but believe me the inner turmoil can last for years
For you cannot unspeak the words, erase hearing them, erase the hurt, anxiety or the fear
If we speak life over our children, words or enrichment, self-growth, motivation and self-worth
Could we inject wisdom into the young person’s conscious could we impact the words they birth
For if love was their foundation could that love then be the ultimate key
Of self-validation, valuing life seeing great power and determination when they look inside to see

Could there very image be enough, be validated just as they are would they see self-worth
That when they see another that looks like them, they smile, nod in appreciation as oppose to fear or curse
Could that self confidence and self love cause you to extinguish another man’s rage
If instead of fuelling hatred we could respond and in love engage
If we plant and nurture the child in love when they are still a tiny seed
Would this give children the only powerful tool in life they need
You see “sorry I was angry” should no longer be a justified excuse
For what we call no manners is simply a child damaged by emotional abuse.

Hello madness Goodbye joy

The paperback and ebook edition of my book “Kyron: Hello Madness Goodbye Joy” A true story based on he murder of my son Kyron Webb and the aftermath and trauma faced by his family and loved ones. The novel is live in the Amazon Store. It is available for you to purchase via this link

1 thought on “Sticks and Stones”

  1. Hi Rachel, I totally agree that sometimes we say things in anger that can be damaging, then regret afterwards. Hurtful dialogue is emotional abuse and can last for years afterwards. Words are very powerful and symbolic and I think we should all think twice before we use certain language because the impact can be profound! A perfect example of the power of words is when the slave master psychologically broke down people of colour which the repercussions are still very evident in many people of colour today, past down from generation to generation unfortunately . It would be great to try and break the cycle….

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